Limiting beliefs are nothing more than thoughts and feelings that constrain us. Hence the word ‘limiting.’
It is important to realize they hold us back because we believe them to be true, even if they aren't. Don't mistake the importance belief.
In reality, these thoughts and feelings are false. Why, then, do we accept them as real? I think it has a lot to do with the primitive part of the brain trying to fend us away from possible pain.
Going for a dream means getting out of our comfort zone. Well, that could be painful. And, our brain was not designed to help us succeed so much as to eliminate any pain.
That being the case, they hold us back from reaching our goals, reaching our dreams, and succeeding. When many people get a good idea, they don't even try at all. Not once. They listen to the limiting beliefs.
Let's look at how all beliefs act. Tony Robbins can help us with that. He talks about beliefs being unquestioned commands regarding three things:
Perhaps the best way to consider the topic is by looking at the most famous limiting beliefs example of all time. It involves runners who decades ago were chasing the four minute mile record. The four minute mile record was established by Roger Bannister. Before Bannister people were certain it could not be done. They believed the human body could not produce what was necessary to make it happen.
Well, Roger Bannister took a very scientific process to training for the mile. And, it worked. That was amazing. But it was not as amazing as what followed. Once Roger Bannister broke the four minute mile, many people suddenly were able to do it. Even high school runners.
What happened? How is that possible? Roger Bannister was not some kind of freak of nature. And yet, he did it. It turned out running a four minute mile was possible. Well, if that is the case, why had it not been done before? The answer lies in the beliefs established in the minds of the runners. Because it had not been done, people came to accept it as impossible. Everyone except Roger Bannister. It turns out the constraining issue was a limiting belief. The mind is a very powerful instrument.
Now, the question becomes, what limiting beliefs are holding you back from achieving what you want in life? How objective are you with your beliefs? Just because something hasn't happened in the past, doesn't mean it can't be done. Your past does not control your future.
Life is hard enough without we humans sabotaging ourselves. And yet we do it. All the time. All of us.
Our lives are not as fixed as we make them out to be. Yes, we create habits of thinking, and yes, it can seem as if they are unbreakable. They are not. There's ample proof. So why do we not make the changes that we need to make? Easy Answer: We like to stay in our comfort zone. Of course the problem with that is we can't find growth and progress in our comfort zone. For change, we have to go outside our comfort zone.
A momentary sidebar:
So, what are you going to do about your unnecessary roadblocks and detours? Aren't you tired of getting less out of life than you want? If so, you have to leave your comfort zone at times. That can be a little scary and even a little painful. What to do?
One technique I recently came across, and tried, is this: Imagine yourself an actor. What character would you have to play to get the results you want. You see, everyone usually knows what they need to do, they just don't do it. It's been shown scientifically that when people imagine themselves as actors playing a scene accomplishing a task, they find it far easier for them to accomplish the tasks and get the results they seek. It really does work. Give it a try.
Another strategy I found was from a really great book on creativity titled ThinkerToys. The strategy is called Tick-Tock.
Here is an example from ThinkerToys (page 6)
"I'll never be able to do it. Just do a little bit at a time and get started. There's no reason I have to do it all on a crash schedule.
I'll probably screw it up and fail miserable It doesn't have to be perfect. I might learn something, and imagine how I'll feel when it's finally finished...
I can't discipline myself. I have no self-control... I must have self-control because I've done well in other things. Just work on it as best I can as long as I can..."
You simply come up with the positive to override the negative.
Finally, use affirmations. That is like taking ideas from successful people and making them your ideas. You will find many on this website.
Find some affirmations on this website and make the ideas that resonate with you yours.
So your goal is to overcome any limiting beliefs holding you back. Do that and lasting change can be yours.
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