What to do when you Need Help Getting Motivated


No matter who you are, there are going to be times you need help getting motivated. In fact, thinking back, you probably don’t have to try very hard to remember the last time you felt unmotivated.

What can you do? Try this, go to the Motivational Toolbox on this site. You will see that one of the techniques is title “Small Steps.” Read it. Apply it. It's simple.

Why is this technique so important? Easy answer. In so many situations when we feel overwhelmed, there seems to be too much to even consider. That, in many cases, is one of the first problems to solve. This problem happens so often, that once solved, it can have a tremendous impact on your life and the lives of those you love.

So we start with solving a problem. Then we consider our tools. Using one or more of these techniques makes solving the problem easier.

It is just common-sense to solve the problem of feeling overwhelmed by breaking the problem into small steps. An important key when using the “Small Steps” technique is to not stop too soon. You want the steps really small. So small, in fact, it seems silly. Trust me, it is not silly no matter how small the step. And the more you use the technique, the more you realize how brilliant really tiny steps is.


Changing Direction...Changing Your Life

I will never forget being at a Jim Rohn seminar, and hearing Jim say some magic words. I can see him now behind a podium saying, “You can’t change destination over night; but you can change direction over night.” Wow. Those few words changed my life.

Here’s another relevant saying of Jim Rohn, “For things to change in your life, you have to change.” That saying was originally said to Jim by his mentor, Earl Schoaff. Jim changed direction and never looked back. You can do that too. When you need help getting motivated, realize what you are needing to do is change direction. You start with changing direction of your thoughts and then you change the direction of your actions. When that happens...your life will change.

It is so true that for things to change in someone's life, they need to change. But so many people do not think that way. They don’t want to change, yes, only they want someone else to fix things for them. Or they hope some kind of magic will happen and their lives will suddenly change for the better. Here's a major problem with that attitude, life doesn’t work that way. That is nothing more than daydreaming.

In fact, if you keep doing the same things over and over and expect a different outcome, that is insanity. And that is what so many people do, over and over and over again. If you are one of those people…Stop It!!!

And now, one final (maybe) quote from Jim Rohn, “Here is a good question to ask yourself: "Where are you going? Ten years from now you will surely arrive. The question is, where? We don’t want to kid ourselves about where; we don’t want to kid ourselves about the road we’re walking.” How many people do you know who are kidding themselves about something important in their life? Hmmm…are you one of them?

So it is time to face reality and do some goal planning. Where will you be in 10 years? What is most important to you right now that will take you some time to achieve? Once you decide on that goal, it is time to get to work. And you now know what the first thing you should do is - break your goal into small steps.

At the same time, realize how this important goal you have chosen is going to take time to achieve. You have  to allow yourself time. That being the case, as you travel the journey to success, you are going to have to start saying NO to a lot of things that come along as you pursue your goal. If something comes up as you are working on your primary goal…kill it. Do not take it on. Too many things will take up too much of your time. You cannot allow that to happen.


Some Good Techniques To Use When You Need Help Getting Motivated Are The “What If Technique” And “The 5 Second Rule.”

As I said above, there will be times you need help getting motivated and/or feel overwhelmed. That happens for everyone. No one escapes.

So what else can you do? First, there is the "What If Technique." And, there are two ways to use it.

To begin, let’s say deep down you know what you want, but you just aren’t feeling the juice to go after it. Ask yourself this question, “What if I achieve my goal?” This will cause you to remember the benefits you sought when you began. Once again, you feel the joy you can get at the end of the journey. Chances are, energy will start to flow.

There is another way to use the "What If Technique." When feeling overwhelmed, ask yourself , “What if I overcome the obstacle(s) I am facing? Yes, I have to go outside my comfort zone, but it will be worth it." It is outside your comfort zone that growth resides.

Another technique you can use when you need help getting motivated is the “5 Second Rule Technique.”  Realize that it is the primitive part of your brain that is sending you negative feedback. It is trying to protect you from pain, but in that process you will not achieve your goal. It kills your motivation. With growth and success comes some pain. It is unavoidable.

The key is to not allow the primitive part of the brain time to kick in and form an obstruction (negative self-talk). As soon as you see there is something you should do, countdown 5,4,3,2,,1…blast off. Start moving. Once you are moving, everything becomes easier. This is one of the easiest tools to use when you need help getting motivated.


Summing Up: What To Do When You Need Help Getting Motivated

Remember how I started this article? It is vital to keep the steps to your goal small, making them easier to do. That is first and foremost in achieving your goals.

We all can use a little help when pursuing important goals. You have three ideas above that can help you succeed. If you have never tried them, you are in for a treat. The three techniques will have you breaking a long or medium range goal into smaller and smaller steps. Then, when you come across obstacles or feel overwhelmed, you have two techniques to help you overcome them.

When you start to feel you need help getting motivated, ask yourself “what if,” what if I succeed and accomplish my goal. Answer, you will feel great. That gets the juices flowing. And you do the same thing when you come across an obstacle. You simply ask yourself “what if” I overcome this obstacle. You will figure it out and you will find motivation. You will see the big picture.

And you also have The 5 Second Rule. It was developed by Mel Robbins and it helped her when things were so bad, she couldn't get out of bed. And the technique is beautiful because it is so easy to use and you can apply it to any problem.

When you do all of the above, you will feel a boost to your self-confidence and self-esteem. You won't feel lost. Life will be different. You stopped doing the things you had been doing, and found a different road to take. Everything changed because you changed. Be proud of yourself.

Finally, I talked about three techniques. There are more in the Motivational Toolbox. You owe it to yourself to check it out. Here’s a link: Motivational Toolbox.

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