How To Use other people's wisdom To Solve Your Personal Problems

Other People's Wisdom

You don't have to solve your problems all by yourself. You can profit from other people's wisdom. This is one of the best ways to arrive at good solutions faster.

Smart people have had problems similar to yours. What did they do? How did they handle it? Their answer might be just the solution you're looking for.

Life is not a piece of cake for anyone. We all set goals, make plans, and then, sure enough, roadblocks appear. That just the way it is. That's life.

People respond to problems differently. We all know people who complain incessantly about their problems. While this is annoying, it is understandable. After all, things are going badly for them.

What can they do? And more importantly for us...what can we do to solve our own  problems?

In this article, you will learn how I used other people's wisdom to help me in my time of need.

Over The Past 12 Months, Other People's Wisdom Has Guided Me And Helped Me To Move On After A Very Difficult Year

This year has been particularly tough for me. My sister died in February (we were close), and my brother died in July (we were best friends). And to add insult to injury, I had a pinched nerve in my neck and shoulder. I thought I would need an operation. Thankfully, that was not the case.

Life has taught me that hoping and wishing doesn't work most of the time. If anything, it exacerbates the problem. So, how did I deal with disaster?

As you might imagine, during this horrendous year, I felt down. In fact, I felt down many times. I could have allowed that to continue, but I knew better. Even if it was going to be very difficult, I had to deal with the situations causing me so much grief.

This statement might surprise you: What matters in life is not so much what happens to you. I know, I know, there are tragedies that can happen. But most of life is not tragedy. Most of the time, what happens to you happens to many people. That, too, is life.

What matters most in life is how a person responds to what happens to them. Throughout life there are many choices to make. Those choices makes all the difference in the world as to how our future turns out. That especially includes choices made during distressing times.

The death of my siblings were tragedies. Yes. But, I had more life to live. Would I let my emotions determine my future? No. Emotions only tell a person how they feel towards something. They do not tell a person what is good or bad for them. Emotions are often wrong.

I could have wallowed in self-pity. Instead, having studied personal development for decades, I turned to some of my mentors for guidance at this distressing time.

I'm not going to go through everything I did. But there is one thing I want to share. It is how a person can end up making good decisions by studying the wisdom of others.

In this case, I'm talking about quotes. For my purposes, quotes are distributed wisdom. But who reads them? And how are they used? I hope I can show you their importance and a way to think about them to get the most out of them.

How To Use Other People's Wisdom To Solve Your Personal Problems

The first quote I used was from my favorite and first mentor - Jim Rohn.

“For things to change, you have to change. For things to get better, You have to get better. For things to improve, You have to improve.”

Every quote in this article covers a different part of reality and how to deal with it. So what part of reality is Jim referring to in his quote?

No other species has the power to change like humans. Animals simply act on instinct. Humans do not. We have the ability to reason and consider things in order to examine various options. We are also the only species that's able to change our environment.

As I said before, I could have wallowed in self-pity. But that would have lead to more unhappiness. So, I chose a different path. (You probably know someone who can't seem to shake their depression. That, too, is a choice. A choice to not change.)

Don’t get me wrong, I grieved the loss of my siblings. I’m not ashamed to say I cried long and hard. I learned a long time ago the importance of grieving. I knew I had to let the pain out or the feelings of loss would mess me up.

It's easier to go on once you've let go of the pain. That’s what I did. I started moving through the pain. More life is on the other side of pain.

How about you? Have you had 'loss' in your life? If so, you know what I am talking about. A lot of people can’t seem to move on. They can’t make that change.

That being the case, how are things going to change for them? They probably won’t.

It is through thought and action that things got better for me. For things to change I had to change. I had to adapt to a new life in which my brother and sister weren’t present.

I also got physical therapy that worked great giving me relief from the pinched nerve. I took action. That was the easier change to make.

But, it did not stop with the therapy. I learned from the therapists exercises that would help my neck to relieve the pain from stress. I do those exercises everyday just like I do exercises everyday for my back (I had a back operation 3 years ago.)

I was changing and getting better. Again, for things to change, I had to change. I did. For things to get better, I had to get better. I did. For things to improve, I had to improve. I did. I was following the wisdom from Jim’s quote. I took it to heart and acted.

How many people who are experiencing really tough times allow the negatives to overcome them making them all the more miserable? What if they had Jim Rohn’s quote to guide them? What if they took it seriously and made the necessary changes?

Here’s A Quote Many People Have Heard, 
But Few Have Made Real Use Of

Have you ever heard the quote:

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.”

What part of reality is this quote referring to?

It refers to people stuck in a rut who complain constantly about their situation, but do nothing to change it.You probably know a few people like this.

I like how this quote ties in with the first one. These individuals want change from without, not from within. Well, as Jim told us, “For things to change [they] need to change.”

They are glued to their routines. Their habits rule their lives. They need to learn and apply the wisdom from both quotes above.

How about you? Do you find yourself stuck in a rut? Are you willing to try something new?

It’s so easy to fall into a rut. I know. Over 72 years, I’ve been in many ruts. Fortunately, The good news is that I learned how to escape from them. And, yes, it did time and effort. And, a little pain. But was it worth it? Absolutely.

The first step for getting out of a rut is to recognize the reality that one is trapped in a rut. You can’t fix what you don’t identify and acknowledge. Then, as we learned from the first quote, to get out of the rut we need to make some internal changes.

Which leads to the second part of escaping a rut - creating some new goals. We need something to inspire us. Otherwise, we will remain in our comfort zone (aka, our habits).

What motivates you? What would you like to have, experience, or become?

As for me, with the tough year I've had, I feel I'm back. I have set new goals, changed some old patterns, and developed new ones.

So, again, how about you? Is there something new you can commit to? You can’t keep doing what you’ve been doing and expect things to change. Learn from other people's wisdom.

Digging Deeper Into Making Changes

Changing Job Situations

Let’s say you hate your job. Your career is in a rut. How can the quotes above help you with your situation?

Well, the first quote says that for things to change, you have to change. We've said that many times. (That's what happens with truth. It gets repeated.)

The process might be as easy as going online to see what jobs are available in your industry. Perhaps there is another company where you could be happier.

Or, you might find someone who works for a competitor that you could invite to lunch to learn about the company they work for. What are their working conditions?

You could also check out what’s new in your field through industry magazines and blog sites. This could be the start of the change that can lead to a new beginning.

Now let’s say you hate, not just the company you work for, but also what you do. Perhaps, now is the time for a career move.

Getting a degree today is so much easier today than decades ago. You can do it online in your spare time.

Or perhaps you don’t want to go for a degree, but a certificate is enough to get you started in a new direction. And it takes less time to get a certificate.

You could also do something as simple as asking friends about their jobs. Who knows what you might learn? Maybe nothing, but “nothing ventured nothing gained.” Oh, is that another quote? Is that other people's wisdom that can help guide us in a new direction? You bet. And other people's wisdom is all around us. It's easy to find.

What About Changes In Relationships

I learned this one the hard way. I was married for 15 years. My wife and I didn’t work on our marriage the way we should have. We drifted apart. We didn’t hate each other, but something was definitely wrong.

One night I went to her and said we either need to get counseling or get a divorce. We both decided on divorce.

It would have been much better if I would have worked harder on our marriage. Yes, it takes two to tango (another quote), but someone has to begin the process.

So, here I would urge you to never forget to concentrate your efforts on improving your relationship. It can be as easy as paying more attention to your spouse. Start to plan things like you did before you were married. This change may be all it takes to rekindle the relationship.

I know it is so easy to stay within a comfort zone even if it isn’t working well. Here's the problem...that is not healthy. Not just for you and your spouse, but also for the children if there are any.

If things have gone too far, it’s probably time to have a talk about getting some professional help. Or, if it has gone too far for that, it is time to talk about divorce. Don’t forget you have the rest of your life to live and your happiness is your primary goal.

The bottom line is you can’t keep doing the same things in your relationship and expect your marriage to get better. And, for things to change, you have to change. Yep, there are those two quotes again.

What If You Are Having Financial Problems?

Financial Problems

What if you've spent more than you've earned? In fact, it has gotten so bad you hate to even think about your credit card balances.

There is an old adage, "If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.” Hmmm, another quote to learn from. It is amazing what quotations can teach us. If, that is, we take the time to learn from them.

So what part of reality is this quote referring to? It comes about, like most quotes do, from observation. The goal is to get out of the hole. But, if you keep digging, you will find it harder and harder to get out of the hole.

And, remembering the first quote, “For things to change, you have to change.” The change here would be to stop using your credit cards. Cut way back on your spending.

But that doesn’t solve the whole problem. You might have to get a second job. Or, perhaps you are so good at your job, another company will be willing to pay you more than your current employer.

Hey, if you are that good, get your courage up and ask for a raise.

Another alternative is to learn how to earn money from home on the Internet. The number of people making extra income, or even full time income through their website or YouTube channels is really impressive. These are small businesses that didn’t exist 20 years ago.

YouTubers are making extra money from their videos by allowing Google to put ads on their videos. Google owns YouTube.

Or, perhaps, you become a blogger. There are fields of knowledge and activity you know more about than other people. Here too, google puts ads on your blog and when people click on the ad, you earn money.

You can even take pictures and sell them to sites that furnish stock photos to advertisers, bloggers, etc. They will pay you if someone downloads your picture.

There are so very many possibilities. There will be a learning curb, yes, but if you learned to drive a car, you can learn to create value on the internet. If you create value on the Internet, you can earn more money.

Once again, for things to change, you have to change. You simply cannot keep spending like you've been spending, bringing in limited income, and expect your financial condition to get better. It doesn’t work that way.

And, yes, another quote: "If you keep doing what you have been doing, you are going to keep getting what you have been getting." Take a look at what you've been getting. Obviously, it is not enough.

In Conclusion

I hope I have inspired you to make the changes you need to make in your life for a happier future.

Obviously, standing still won’t cut it. Life is to be lived. And, yes, that is easier said than done. But, you must make the effort. If you are in a bad place, staying in your comfort zone won’t work.

It won’t be easy. Everything you try will not work perfectly. Indeed, none of us are perfect.

Whatever you do, learn from your efforts, make new plans if you need to, and keep moving forward. Keep your eyes on your goals.

Don’t get distracted. If necessary, keep the steps you take small and easy to do. Take enough of them in the right direction and you will be amazed at what you can accomplish.

I’ll end this article about using the wisdom of others through quotes with another quote. This one is also from Jim Rohn. It’s short, but powerful. “Direction determines destination.” If you are going in the wrong direction…turn around.

If you liked the idea of using other people's wisdom to help guide your life, know that I have on this site is an index of famous people whose quotes can make a difference in your life. Now that you see how I take quotes seriously, perhaps you’ll want to do the same with the quotes on my site.

Here is a link to the Quote Index.

I'm writing this in January of 2022. I wish for you a happy life. If you are willing to take other people's wisdom to heart, you will be long on your way to reaching your potential. Learn, plan, and take action.

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