If You Want lasting change, raising your standards is a good place to begin

Raising Your Standards is the first of a three step process Tony Robbins uses to create lasting change in himself and his clients. Tony is one of the top life and business coaches in the world. And he has been for decades. In his book Awaken The Giant Within,  are three principles Tony uses for creating lasting change.

  • Raising your standards
  • Changing limiting beliefs
  • Changing strategies

In this article, we are going to talk about the first criteria which Tony said he used to cause the most lasting change in his life - Raising Your Standards. Here is what he says:

"When people ask me what really cahnged my life eight years ago [around 1984], I tell them that absolutely the most important thing was changing what I demanded of myself. I wrote down all the things I would no longer accept in my life, all the things I would no longer tolerate, and all the things that I aspired to becoming."

Getting Out Of Your Comfort Zone By Raising Your Standards

It is so easy to settle in life. Inside peopel may have so much more to express, but instead, they find a place they can park themselves to live out their life getting and becoming less than they could. And that may work for some, but so many people express being unhappy with their lives. One of the great tragedies of human life.

The problem is their comfort zone. This is where their habits are, as well as all the things, actions, and people that have warm feelings attached to them. But what happens when a comfort zone is not enough. It contains times of unhappiness.

How about you? Are their parts of your life you're not happy with? If so, maybe it is time for a change. Hmmm... and where should one start? Well, as Tony says, a good place to begin is by raising your standards.

It is important to realize that your comfort zone is nothing more than a state of consciousness. And...a state of consciousness can be changed. It's not easy, but it is doable. And it begins by making a decision. A decision that enough is enough. You want more out of your life. You want to grow into a happier life. And... growth is found outside, not inside, the comfort zone.

Raising Your Standards Will Require Some Mental Toughness On Your Part

The place to begin is with an understanding of what a standard is. A standard is that against which everything is measured. In this case, the standard is your level of happiness. You're not happy with something, so a change is required. Determine what it is you want to change and come up with a strategy for getting there. Decide in what ways, and how much, you need to change. How much more effort do you have to exert? How much more time do you have to put in?

That is like setting a resolution, isn't it? Have you set New Year Resolutions before? If so, you know resolutions are easier to make than to do. You're going to have to apply something in addition to setting higher resolution - mental toughness.

One of the reasons people don't achieve their resolutions is the lack of mental toughness. They want change, but they want the change to be easy. Don't let that be use. Life doesn't work that way. It is important to remain objective if you want to achieve your new standard.

I define Mental toughness  as:

Mental toughness is a state of mind in which a person who finds themselves confronted by a negative, even harmful situation, does not panic and does not turn tail and run. Instead they stand firm, they take action and they fight.

In this case, you are fighting against yourself. It is an internal tug-of-war. And the good news is you get to set the terms. You can start with a small rise in your standards, and, once you achieve that raise your standards some more. Progress, in and of itself, leads to happiness. Taking small steps might be your path to victory. You will not need as much mental toughness and going for the whole enchilada at one time.

But, if you feel you up to starting with a more major step, by all means, give it a try. But know that if you don't succeed with a major rise in your standards, you can always back down to a lower number.

Finally, You Will Also Need To Change What You Focus On

When raising your standards, you will need to come off auto-pilot and create new pathways in your brain leading you to a higher standard. A big part of the comfort zone resides in your habits. Those behaviors you do not have to think about. they are automatic. It is important to realize that if you stay with your habits, your life will not change much from where it is.

There is an elaborate trigger system in place that when you encounter a trigger, a habit kicks into gear. You have to switch your focus away from the trigger. Instead focus on those behaviors you need to incorporate into your life so you can reach a higher standard. And you will have repeat the new efforts often to create a new habit. You can do it. I can prove it.

There was a time you did not know how to drive a car. Think how much is involved with learning to drive a car. You have to learn about the car (there is a lot to it), there are the road signs, there is driving in bad weather, and so much more. That effort is now pretty automatic. So, once you set your new behavior set, it will feel like learning to drive a car. Just put one foot in front of another and if necessary, make the step your learning smaller so it is easier to learn.

When you were driving your car, you didn't quit and say, "Well, I guess I'll just walk or bum a ride." No. Why? You wanted the benefits of being able to drive the car. Acquiring the new skill brought many great things into your life. Well, raising your standards on other things will do the same. The new result is a life in which you are far happier. But make no mistake about it, at first you will be pulled away from the goal because you are out of your comfort zone. And, a part of you wants to pull you back in.

Don't give in; stay strong. Over time, raising your standards, you can accomplish a lot and in that process build a life you are far happier with. And that is only the first of the three principles Tony uses for lasting change.

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